SHAMELESS.

The SHAMELESS Method™

A six-step framework for identifying, understanding, and releasing sexual shame.

Step 1: Reveal

Become aware of your internal shame messages. What are the phrases, tones, or fears that loop inside your head when you think about your body, your desire, or your identity?

Step 2: Root

Trace those messages back to where they came from—family, religion, media, past relationships, or moments of rejection. Every voice of shame has an origin story.

Step 3: Review

Ask the honest question: Is this belief actually helping me, or is it keeping me small? This is where we separate truth from inherited conditioning.

Step 4: Release

Let go of the messages that are no longer serving you. This step is about forgiveness, grief, and liberation—the moment your body exhales.

Step 5: Replace

Create new, helpful messages that reflect who you’re becoming, not who you were told to be.

Step 6: Repeat

Rehearse those new messages daily. Speak them, breathe them, embody them—until they become second nature, until they feel like home.

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Who am I?

I’m Kevin Martin — a sexual empowerment coach, writer, and guide helping gay men break free from shame and finally own their sexuality, confidence, and truth.

I’ve spent the last ten years coaching, creating, and carving out safe, powerful spaces where gay men can heal, rise, and live unapologetically.

My work blends deep emotional insight, real-world tools, and no-BS support to help you stop performing for love and start living like you belong to yourself.

Whether we’re diving into sex, identity, confidence, or connection through 1:1 coaching, retreats, or content, I’m here to walk with you through the fire, and into your power.

My Services

1:1 Coaching

60 minutes of individual coaching with me to work through sexual shame, religious trauma, consensual non-monogamy, and anything and everything in-between.

The SHAMELESS Journey

A 6-session guided coaching journey through my SHAMELESS Method™ to help you release sexual shame once and for all.

Retreats

Release sexual shame through in-person group coaching, workshops, excursions, and genuine human connection through my life-changing weekend retreats.

Current client, 37 yo.

“I didn’t just stop feeling ashamed—I started feeling fucking alive. Working with Kevin has changed my sex life, my confidence, and my relationships.”

Current client, 52 yo.

“I didn’t realize how much shame was running my life until Kevin’s work ripped it out of me. I’m having better sex, I’m more confident in my body, and I finally feel free to be the man I’ve always wanted to be.”

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2026 Retreats

Honolulu, HI | February 2026
Austin, TX | June 2026

Workshops. Transformational sessions.
Firelit conversations. Real connection.

12 spots each.
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Woo-Woo Crew — Free Weekly Guided Meditation

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Contact Me

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