The SHAMELESS Journey
If you’re here, chances are you’re not new to personal growth.
You’ve thought about your patterns. You’ve listened to podcasts. You’ve probably tried to “mindset” your way through some of this.
And yet something still happens in real moments.
You want something… and almost immediately your brain jumps in.
Is that okay? Am I too much? What does this say about me? What if someone rejects me for it?
That loop is exhausting.
Not because your desire is wrong, but because shame has been running the show.
Letting go of that shame is the work we do here.
A 3-Month Private Coaching Experience
Stop fighting your sexuality. Start trusting it.
What This Actually Is
The SHAMELESS Journey is a private, guided coaching container where we work directly with the patterns underneath sexual shame.
Not just talking about it.
Actually changing your relationship with your body, your desire, and how you show up in intimacy.
This is for gay men who are tired of performing confidence and want the real thing: sexual self-trust.
The ability to want what you want without spiraling. To communicate honestly. To be seen without immediately shrinking. To experience sex as connection, play, curiosity—not pressure.
If Any Of This Sounds Familiar…
You’re turned on by something… and then ashamed of it two seconds later.
You feel confident flirting or messaging, but tense once things get real.
You replay hookups or sexual moments afterward analyzing everything.
You want to ask for things in bed but stop yourself.
You’re exploring non-monogamy and realizing shame is quietly shaping everything.
You’re “sex-positive” in theory, but your nervous system hasn’t caught up yet.
You’re tired of feeling like your sexuality runs your life in the background.
Nothing about this means you’re broken. It means you learned patterns, and patterns can change.
The Real Transformation
Most men come into this work thinking they need confidence.
What they actually need is self-trust.
During this process, clients often notice shifts like:
• they stop spiraling after sex, porn, or vulnerability
• they feel more relaxed being seen naked — physically and emotionally
• they ask for what they want without apologizing
• desire stops triggering immediate shame
• they navigate dating and non-monogamy with more honesty and less fear
• rejection stops collapsing their sense of worth
• sex becomes something they participate in instead of perform
The word I hear most often is relief.
Not because everything becomes perfect, but because they stop fighting themselves all the time.
The SHAMELESS Method
Over the years I’ve seen the same patterns show up again and again, so this work follows a clear path.
1. Shame Anatomy
We identify the exact places shame hooks you—your body, desire, porn, masculinity, rejection, religion, relationships.
2. Nervous System Safety
Shame lives in the body first. We build your capacity to stay present with arousal, vulnerability, and intensity.
3. Desire Ownership
You learn to want what you want without bargaining, performing, or shrinking.
4. Communication That Doesn’t Collapse
Clear asks. Honest conversations. Boundaries that don’t come with guilt.
5. Sexual Self-Trust
This is the goal. Your sexuality stops feeling like something you have to manage and starts feeling like something you can live inside.
This work comes from years of coaching gay men through the exact patterns you're experiencing.
What The Container Looks Like
3-Month Private Coaching Journey
• Up to 10 private coaching sessions
• Unlimited Voxer support between sessions
• Practices and reflections tailored to your patterns
• Real-life integration so the work actually sticks
Sessions may include:
• deep coaching conversations
• nervous system and embodiment work
• guided practices to reconnect with your body
• optional clothed or nude somatic exercises (always consent-based and client-led)
• tools for communication, boundaries, and desire
This isn’t therapy. It’s direct, compassionate, and honest work.
This Is For You If
You’re ready to stop intellectualizing and actually change patterns.
You’re willing to be honest about your sexuality.
You want support that is both warm and challenging.
You’re ready to take responsibility for your growth.
This Is Not For You If
You’re looking for quick fixes.
You want someone to tell you what’s wrong with you.
You’re unwilling to practice anything outside sessions.
This work requires honesty. Not perfection.
Investment
SHAMELESS Journey — $5,000
3 months of private coaching and support.
Most people spend years stuck in the same internal loops around sex, shame, and relationships.
This work shortens that process dramatically.
How To Begin
The first step is a conversation. Not a pressure call. But instead, it’s a chance to see if this work is right for you.
Apply for the SHAMELESS Journey here.
If it feels like a fit, we’ll move forward together.
Who Am I?
I’m Coach Kevin Martin — a Master-level intimacy coach, shame healer, and guide helping gay men break free from self-hatred and finally own their body, sexuality, confidence, and truth with pleasure.
I’ve spent the last ten years coaching, creating, and carving out safe, powerful spaces where gay men can heal, rise, and live unapologetically.
My work blends deep emotional insight, real-world tools, and no-BS support to help you stop performing for love and start living like you belong to yourself.
Whether we’re diving into sex, identity, confidence, or connection through 1:1 coaching, retreats, or content, I’m here to walk with you through the fire, and into your power.
A Note From Me
I’m not interested in fixing you. I’m interested in helping you stop abandoning yourself.
Your desire isn’t the problem. Shame is just loud, and it can get quieter.
Photographs by Brian Kaminski.
Current client, 37 yo.
“I didn’t just stop feeling ashamed—I started feeling fucking alive. Working with Kevin has changed my sex life, my confidence, and my relationships.”
Current client, 52 yo.
“I didn’t realize how much shame was running my life until Kevin’s work ripped it out of me. I’m having better sex, I’m more confident in my body, and I finally feel free to be the man I’ve always wanted to be.”
Get in Touch
Interested in learning more about my SHAMELESS Journey? Complete the form below, and I’ll follow-up with you as soon as possible to discuss further.
